Recently, J has been very attached to particular things and he won't want to be far away from them even when he is eating.
So, just 2 days ago, I've had the WORST morning with him. He was seemingly more unsettled that morning, tired but refused to nap. And he was just crying and screaming...Nothing I gave him worked, even with my singing, he screamed even louder. (singing usually keeps him very calm) Not even his favourite mineral water bottle. He's normally quite predictable. He wakes up in the morning, daddy showers him, has his breakfast, play and crawls around a bit and off he goes to nap.
Many of you reading this now probably think it sounds like a normal situation, but not so in the case of J. He's usually very mild-tempered, easy-going. He's very sociable and gets along with everybody. He doesn't even snatch other children's toys. However, it seems that a lot of his behaviours have changed since he turned 1 year old.
He's more assertive and wants things done his way. When he wants something and doesn't get it, he will cry. Sometimes, I'm really in a dilemma. On one hand, it's good that he knows what he wants...But on the other hand, how do I educate him that some things you need to have patience to wait or not everything he wants is necessarily good for him. He's after all only 13 months old! As a new mum, the learning curve is definitely a steep one. There are new things to learn every single day!
That morning I was so frustrated with J because I just didn't know what was going on with him. I had to let it out somewhere, so I decided to text my hubby to "complain". And he enlightened me! Boy was I glad I texted him! He told me to try giving J his blanket and so I did. Guess what?! My hubby was spot-on about the blanket. The moment I gave J his blanket, he smiled at me and he laid down to nap. It was a heart melt moment to see my little boy smile again!
At the moment, I felt so guilty for scolding him earlier and for not being able to understand his needs. When my hubby came home that evening, he told me sometimes when we are too involved, we miss out on certain details, which I totally agree.
The next day, I placed his blanket in his playpen and he held it while napping...our little happy boy is back! Yay!
So we decided to find out what exactly was going on with J and glad to find out that this is normal stage of development!
For those of you who are facing the same issue with your LO, the following websites might be of help to you:
(1) Tantrums: http://www.babycenter.com/0_tantrums_11569.bc
(2) Why Toddlers Throw Temper Tantrums: http://www.parenting.com/article/toddler-temper-tantrums?page=0,1
If you do have any tips on how to handle such situations, please do share with me. TIA
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